Discover your Purpose

Why it matters to discover your purpose

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Written by Kellen Kenlyn Nakaye

Does my life really count? You might ask. Yes, it does. Ephesians 2:10 reads “For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them.”

The purpose of your life supersedes accomplishing a specific goal. Rather, it is intended to be your ongoing impact on the world, big or small throughout your existence.

Right from the beginning God created us to be in his image and to have dominion over the earth he created and he blessed us to be fruitful and multiply and replenish the earth (Genesis 1:26-27). As Steven J Cole writes in his article “Why God Created People”, God’s purpose is to have people on earth reflecting His image and having dominion over the earth under His sovereignty. 

Caring to discover your purpose as an individual is then very important because of the reasons I am going to expound on below;

  • It will cause you to discover your gifts/talents (1 Corinthians 7:7).

Knowing that you have a role to serve that involves others motivates you to develop and excellently use your gifts and talents hence setting yourself up even for greater rewards, for a man’s gift makes room for him and brings him before great men (Proverbs 18:16). For example, Alexander Graham bell used his gift to invent the telephone for which he is still remembered today.

  • With purpose at heart, you can set a vision for your life

According to Habakkuku 2:2, it is having a vision that motivates one to put in the work necessary towards accomplishing a series of goals and hence serving a purpose. Also, a personal vision enables you to strive through the hardest of times which non of us is immune to in this world. In his book, Man’s Search for Meaning, Victor Frankl elaborated on the horrible suffering he faced in the Nazi camps and how the will to meaning helped him hold onto life even when taking one’s life as a means to escape the painful torture from the camp masters was justifiable.

  • You can form quality relationships.

With Purpose at heart, you will be more concerned with surrounding yourself with people who can hold you accountable to fulfilling your call.

  • It enables us to develop and stick to good habits.

Personally, it is after I gained a sense of purpose that I could stick with habits like exercising. I realized I would need a strong, fit, and firm body to carry out my purpose (honestly I sometimes get inconsistent but at least I have a strong reason to give it a try every now and then). Also, being purpose-driven calls for service so I learnt to set goals for the things I knew I had to accomplish and to properly manage my time so I could meet the deadlines. Someone is always waiting on the other side of your obedience so you can not afford to waste time not doing what you must do.

Overall, a purpose-driven approach to life is what will bring you the most joy and fulfillment so, find out today what you ought to stand for so that you can stop falling for everything that is placed in front of you.

  • You become a confident person

Knowing your purpose puts your worth and capability on your finger tips and that alone can enable you to become a determined and resilient individual. You become less controlled by your circumstances and more empowered by your aspirations! Because you become aware of the value you can offer, expressing yourself becomes easier.

In case you are wondering about what you need to do to discover your life’s purpose, simply start by Praying to God about what you can do with your life. That is what I did and from then I went from just chasing everything I was told I would earn a lot of money from to desiring and doing work that utilises my gifts and talents and makes a positive impact in the world.

Becoming aware of the greatness you carry is one thing, living it out is another. To further help you to get started on living a life of greatness, I designed an amazing course, DESTINED FOR GREATNESS through which you will be assisted to discover who God made you to be and to do the work to make your vision come alive.

Sign up for it here.

May you glorify God by fulfilling down to the last detail of what he has called you to do (John 17:4).

Peace.

 

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How a woman’s choice of spouse affects her career progress

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Written by Kellen Kenlyn Nakaye

All around us, it is evident that one of the things that affect one’s career progress is who one chooses to date and eventually marry. Cheryl Sandberg, former Meta COO also confirmed the observation when she said “The most important career choice you’ll make is who you marry.”

Lady, if the man you are closely relating with is conscientious and cooperative, it is highly likely that he will influence and challenge you to give your best in your career as well as support you to follow through with your obligations. Furthermore, if he is God revering, he will see to it that you stay in the safe space of your own ongoing relationship with God; a place from which you will draw your greatest strength to navigate life’s ups and downs.

Researchers from Washington University in St. Louis conducted a study covering almost 5,000 married people between the ages of 19 and 89 over a span of five years and found that the only spousal trait that was important to an employee’s work outcomes was conscientiousness. For both male and female partners conscientiousness was seen to be the major personality trait that predicts future job satisfaction, income, and likelihood of promotion.

On the other, relating with a toxic man drains your energy, motivation, and time because they constantly need your attention and constant reassurance of your love for them so that they can validate themselves all that while not caring to reciprocate as it should be. A toxic man does not know how to be happy on their own and is usually not on good terms with God so they seek an individual who they can use to entertain themselves and hence they have to be controlling to keep the individual in their grasp. This dynamic eventually causes your work performance to decline because when you are being controlled and abused by a toxic person in a close relationship, you become too tired from giving all your attention to your partner’s every single need, sometimes involving in fights that take a toll on your mental wellbeing.

What usually ties women in toxic relationships is their inability to see their value. When a woman doesn’t acknowledge that she is valuable, she will not see what she offers the world and others and how it is equal in measure to what others have to offer. Because she is so enamoured with thinking that other people’s company and love are a favour she does not deserve, she may attract/ put up with men who do not value women. She goes on to easily forgive all types of abuse and violence out of fantasizing that her love interest has the potential to change and do much better than he is right now!

So many things including unhealed childhood trauma, taking our identity from the world instead of God, etc. cause so many women to undervalue themselves and end up settling for troublesome men. The only sure way for a woman to stir clear of toxic relationships is by learning to value herself enough to be selective of who she allows in her life.

If you need help healing from trauma, learning to value yourself as a Single Lady, and adopting a Christ-influenced approach to life and relationships, get a copy of my new book; “Journey to Wholeness; Learning to Value Yourself as a Single Lady”

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My plastic surgery story

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Written by Kellen Kenlyn Nakaye

On June/12/2023, I watched a YouTube video that narrated a story of a young woman who died in the process of a BBL surgery. I couldn’t help but reminisce on the times in my own life when I hoped to one day do plastic surgery. I really hated the way I physically appeared compared to other girls and when I watched those botched TV shows, I was always looking forward to when it would be my time to be on the bench. Since I was young and did not have that kind of money, I let the thought slip.

Fast forward a couple of years later when I took part in beauty pageants, I started to reconsider the thought. The not-so-aesthetic appearance of my eyes was pointed out by a chaperone as one of the things that put me at a disadvantage to win the competition. For various other reasons, I ended up not winning and I walked away with this self-hatred re-ignited.

Eventually, when I got the first job that offered me medical insurance, my eyes were the first thing I thought to utilize it for. I went on to spend six weeks at the eye clinic where they were doing tests on my eyes to examine how my vision would be affected after the surgeries. I had to wear prisms and patches for hours and sometimes miss out on work because the prisms were giving me double vision. At the end of the examinations, that eye specialist told me I would need three surgeries and the results would be either a slight improvement, a worse outcome, or no change a all. She then told me to go home and think about it and when I was ready, I could call in and set my surgery appointment.

I had now got my chance to get fixed yet, surprisingly, I was not as excited. I kept thinking of the probability of something going wrong during the surgery that would cause me to lose my sight. How exactly would I approach God to ask him for healing from blindness when I took perfectly functioning eyes to be cut up so that I can achieve a certain aesthetic appearance? I asked my mum (now late) about it and she said she didn’t even see any issue with my eyes.

Not convinced that I should drop the surgery, I went to ask God about it.  I prayed, “Should I go ahead with this procedure?” In response, he asked, “What is the function of your eyes?” I thought to myself, “To see”. Again I heard his voice in my mind asking, “How is your vision?” and I thought to myself, “20 by 20 vision!”Then I clearly had His voice tell me to not go ahead with it. I was so at peace, never called the clinic to set the appointment, and never have I ever felt the urgency to see through that surgery.

Nevertheless, my eyes were not the only part of me that I desired to risk going under the knife for. I just hadn’t come across the clinics that would work on those other parts of me here at home and let alone the money it would cost. I kept watching those plastic surgery TV shows, being blown away by the successful operations and picking my inspiration for when I can ever afford one of those BBLs, Nose Job, etc.

A time came when I got enamoured with pursuing the purpose of my life. I always knew I had a service to render to the LORD but I had got so caught up with trying to earn the comforts of life, getting involved in one too many ventures that were just time wasting and giving no satisfactory results that I didn’t really care about what my true potential was. So One day, I asked God what I could do with my life. Immediately, I started to desire to pursue leadership, seek out what I am truly passionate about and the gifts/ talents I could use to add value to others.

With that enlightenment, I stopped hating my body and started to appreciate it for what I can accomplish with it. Being more in tune with the fact that my life has a purpose to serve, I have become less interested in trying to cut myself up to fit a stereotype and more accepting of the fact that God crafted me fit for my purpose and that is the truth for you too. God does not make any mistakes. He fearfully and wonderfully made every single one of us (Psalm 139:14).

Further more, God calls everything he made very good.

Then God saw everything that He had made, and indeed it was very good. So the evening and the morning were the sixth day. – Genesis 1:31 (NKJV)

So do not let the standards of this world cause you to put your life at a risk in order to fit in. You are made fit for the purpose your maker created you for. Find it out today and if you need some help, come be apart of the FOCUS COURSE which I designed to support you on your self-discovery Journey.

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